1.讓對方覺得,這是一件對他也有益的事情
我不是超人,我不會飛。遇到問題hold不住,我也期待小伙伴伸出援手。想請人幫忙,糾結(jié)過如何開口。
有一個朋友質(zhì)疑過我【為什么我找你幫忙時,你總是一百個不情愿?而小X找你時,你從來不推脫?】
我從來沒有留意過這回事。小X求助我時,她總是可以把說得很好聽,有一種魔力,讓我覺得幫了她,我也不吃虧。
for example?你今天晚上有空嗎?可不可以陪我一起去陪個朋友吃個飯?我擔(dān)心冷場。他是xxx專業(yè)畢業(yè)的,你之前不是挺想了解一下這個專業(yè)嗎,剛好你們可以聊一聊。
她口頭上是求助于我,但在無形中傳遞了一個信息:我?guī)土怂乙材軓闹蝎@得有利的價值。聽起來不想在求我,更像是邀請我做一件有益于雙方的事情。
卡耐基先生也認(rèn)為,當(dāng)你想找別人幫忙做一件事,不如換位思考一下,試著想想別人能從中獲益什么。從這個角度下手,你好我也好,別人更樂意幫你的忙。
2.自動轉(zhuǎn)換角色,你是求助方,語氣軟萌一點
為什么要說這一點呢?因為求助于人時,有時候你未必能得到你想要的回應(yīng)。求助前,先問自己盡力了嗎,準(zhǔn)備好面對有可能拒絕嗎?別人幫不了,或者還有別的原因。被拒絕,不要心懷不滿。幫了,要心懷感激。
別人愿意幫,是情分。不愿意幫,是本分。開口求助的時候,態(tài)度軟萌一點,親近一點。
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